The first revelation of 4th of april, 2013

The limits of your intimacy are the limits of your forgiveness.

In as much as you can forgive, you can come closer to someone and especially to yourself. This is a very good criterion to see how much two people love each other and how deep, how intimate is their relationship.

My mother was telling me recently about a work mate who smokes without her husband knowing it, and without her wanting him to know this. The woman has a child, and is over 40 years old, as I understood. I couldn’t believe it, when I heard.

What kind of relationships are these? If you think your husband cannot forgive you, accept you, because you smoke, then what can he forgive? That you forgot to buy eggs from the market?

But I can understand the fear. The fear is actually of truth. We are afraid of the truth because in the land of truth, words become powerful, saying means acting, and we are afraid of acting. Why? Hmmm....Maybe because this would mean to enter in a completely unknown land, the land of freedom and responsibility that comes with it, a land where thing are as they are and you are as you are, and all that you can do is to choose and bear the consequences of it. If you fully live in this land, forgiveness has no place in it. Whatsoever the choice, the good or the bad, you will bear the consequences, and you cannot be forgiven because you knew what that would be. In this case, the results are fully paid, in good or in worse.

This explains why, in a way, most of the people prefer to remain childlike, psychologically and spiritually. Why they refuse to take responsibility of their own life and they choose a way of living that would prevent them to make „dangerous choices”, thus leaving others to choose for themselves. How sad! How easily we put our life in other hands, because this is what it means, and then wondering why our pinky dreams don’t really come true.

The answer to this fear of truth is, of course, courage. And, guess where your courage comes from?

I’ll go to it in a roundabout sort of way. The courage has to do with an element that we see in nature, a mysterious element which knows only one direction: upwards. It is the element whose essence is generosity, giving, and which when appears in the dark night, it gives us hopes and...courage. You guessed it, didn’t you? It’s the fire.

Fire, when it is strong enough, gives us trust in ourselves, enthusiasm and the real power to do things.

And what the fire means in the inner world? It means love. Love is the one that gives us the courage to overcome fear, because when you love you actually start to see. The heart transforms into the eye that sees what the mind can’t see. It sees connections, it sees complementarities, it sees sacrifices, it sees many, many things that give her the power to forgive, eventually, and to embrace the one that suffered in the night of his ignorance.

Amen!